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Post by noblesseoblige on Feb 28, 2005 23:16:11 GMT -5
that is too funny!!!! OMG, Dary and Daryl and his Cousin Daryl...they do have friends, that are exactly like them. We are different, not better by any means, I am not nearly as good a housekeeper as they are. But we have a real sense of fun and are doing intersting things all the time - and they are somewhat dour.
After our last e-mail exchange I am sure we will never see them again. It was hard but it was worth it.
Oh Chris, sorry you have a SIL like that - it is a lot harder when it is family.
I bet she send you that dorky pic I send you too - the one with the cougar and the As....oopps Mule.
*being amused, but hanging head in embaressement*
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Post by Chrisnstar on Mar 1, 2005 0:13:24 GMT -5
LOL, N*O, she didn't send me that picture... I wouldn't have known that was staged if I hadn't been on a listserve that talked about it a lot!
My SIL has a LOT of issues.... sigh... as my mother said, she'd walk a mile to get her feelings hurt... she's extremely manipulative and spiteful. she and my brother have been married for almost 30 years. She treats him like dirt. He always has such a sad look in his eyes.
chris
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Post by Mary Ann on Mar 1, 2005 7:25:54 GMT -5
I agree with n*o, it's harder when it's family. You can't quite ever get rid of them, even though you'd like to. All n*o has to do is not reply to this woman's little snippy comments, and she'll disappear in her self-righteous huff. Buh-bye. But family? *sigh* I'm so sorry you have such a martyr in your family, Chris. Was there ever something brighter in her? I think of my sil, who married a man who didn't love her. He was a total a$$, and she was always so angry. It was really awesome to see her after their divorce; much more like the young bride I'd met when hubby and I first got married. Big weight off of her. But so many wasted years....  |
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Post by Chrisnstar on Mar 1, 2005 10:13:44 GMT -5
Mary Ann, what's so sad. This woman comes from an extremely disfunctional family. Her own mother is one of the angriest people I've ever met. Her sister died in prison.. she was a drug addict. One of her brothers is a pervert. Her other brother has just left the family and moved away. He's a lawyer and I think probably the only family member who has any semblance of sanity.
The sad thing is that she was welcomed into this family with open arms. Everyone has tried hard to make her feel welcome. After all these years, we're all tired of walking around on eggshells worrying about how P. will react if we say this or do that.
She is convinced my parents hate her, but in reality they've done far more for her than they've done for me or my sister. My dad calls her his personal third world country... the more he does for her, the more she hates him.
So everyone now, is just ambivalent about her. She's invited to family get togethers, but if she's not nice, we just ignore her and let her sulk. No one goes out of his or her way anymore to try to make her feel good. It's an exercise in futility.
My brother has had a long career in the Air National Guard (his second job). I don't think P. has ever put it together why he has taken schools and assignments that take him to far flung places for weeks and weeks at a time....
Oh well, every family has to have one, eh?
chris
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Post by tlcbouv on Mar 1, 2005 11:42:22 GMT -5
If you don't like these folks and don't want them as friends then why be so polite. Just be frank and tell them they are not welcome at your place. what difference does it make if you make them mad?
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Post by noblesseoblige on Mar 2, 2005 12:36:26 GMT -5
if I am not polite I will be just like them - not a good place to be! Think about it!
But people that are so self absorbed will fall by the wayside sooner or later, we are too fast for them to keep up.
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Post by Mary Ann on Mar 2, 2005 13:20:50 GMT -5
I have to agree, n*o. Horses are not the only creature known for their breeding.  |
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