Wording for Wedding Invitations, Ideas needed

[JustMary]

Some of you may know me from long ago postings at Acme and/or Stableminds. I used to post as BossMare. Now I am JustMary :-). For those of you that don't know me, I'll introduce later ;-).
Anyway, my DS is getting married in July of this year. Fiancee has asked for my help with invitations, she wants me to do them on the computer. OK.
They will be making their home in Oahu, HI, as he is active duty Army (he just returned from Iraq). The wedding will take place stateside.
Would it be totally tactless (tacky??) to suggest monetary gifts for the couple? For them to ship very many gifts over there would be a big headache, and probably not worthwhile for most gifts.
If, in your opinion, it would be OK, how could you word this? Personally, I have always thought this sort of request to be a major faux pas. In this case, though, it seems appropriate.
I appreciate any/all opinions.

JustMary

[Chrisnstar]

No suggestions, but we're sure glad you're here JustMary!

chris

[paintaloosa]

In my invitations, we worded it that in lieu of gifts, we would prefer a "donation" made to the travel agency. To help pay for our honeymoon.
It might sound a bit nicer if you have a suggestion as to what the money could help pay for. Stuff for the new house? Downpayment on something? A honeymoon? (although you wouldnt need one, living in Hawaii!!) Does that help?

[KarenN]

I'm so glad to see you here!!!

I don't think it would be in bad taste at all. I'm sure most would understand especially for a military couple. I'm afraid I'm not much help with wording, but I'll think on it and see if I come up with anything!

[qhaddict]

Try verseit.com/

Most there are run of the mill but there are a few that were unique that I liked when I was searching for wedding inv. wording.

Off to Office Depot now to get paper FOR wedding invitations... then the fun begins...

[wildfire]

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[JustMary]

For the warm welcome!

Jess, thanks a lot for the website, I think that'll come in handy!

I'm going over to the HR board now to do my intro.

Mary

[Frosty M]

I posted on acme and Stable Minds and enjoy this board very much also. I am concerned about the fact that your son is career army. There is pretty strict etiquette in the military and I'm wondering if he shouldn't ask his commanding officer's wife about this. I'm afraid if does something considered un-mannerly it may keep him from being promoted. She would know all the ins and outs and would probably be delighted to help him. Of course his commanding officer may be a woman, in which case ask her! My DS is getting married soon, also, so I know your excitement. Hope all goes well with them and you.