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Post by AmberC on Jan 31, 2005 12:16:55 GMT -5
Ok, my DD is 2 1/2 and in the past couple days has decided she's ready to stop wearing diapers. She hates wearing diapers. So I stuck a pair of training pants on her and we used the potty. She's got a Blue's Clues potty seat that goes on top of the toilet seat so she feels more secure, and she loves that! First day she had two accidents in her pants (which seriously upset her) and then went in the toilet right before bed. But it's been very hit or miss since then. Sometimes she goes in her pants, sometimes she goes in the potty, and sometimes she holds it for long enough that it makes me worry. She asks to go to the bathroom many many times a day, but the majority of the time she doens't go. The last couple times she's gone, she acts like she's scared to pee. She'll get a scared tone to her voice and say "I can't do it! I can't! I can't!" and then I'll encourage her, and she'll either go (which makes her very happy since it earns her a couple M&Ms, a Pooh sticker, and she gets to flush the toilet, which she thinks is really cool!) or decide she's done, without doing anything, and get down.
I sit in the bathroom with her, which may or may not be part of the problem. But she wants to be wherever I am. If I tell her I'm going to step out, but I'll be right outside the door if she needs me, she's down off the toilet in a second, saying "I'm coming, too!" So the only way to keep her on the potty is to stay in the bathroom with her! But I try to keep myself busy instead of sitting there watching her. The gray hair hunt in the mirror usually does the trick :-P
Any ideas? Getting a diaper on her is a major pain in the butt, and with as upset as she gets about accidents, I think she understands what she's supposed to do.
Amber
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Post by Chrisnstar on Jan 31, 2005 12:33:38 GMT -5
Each kid is different. Some kids just get so disgusted with wet and poopy pants that they just potty train themselves. Others seem to take forever to catch on. My granddaughter was like the latter. She could have cared less, until she started going to preschool, then it was very important to have dry pants.
You should have had the challenge I did back in the 1970s... potty training when there was no toilet! We had an outhouse.
chris
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Post by wildfire on Jan 31, 2005 12:52:30 GMT -5
Have you tried:
1) Letting her wear "plastic underwear" over regular panties? ("plastic underwear" = plastic pants. Put Walmart hoof conditioner on her bottom to help prevent diaper rash.)
2) Letting her watch YOU use the toilet. (This may help teach her that the toilet, UNDER SUPERVISION, is nothing to fear. Remember: In the USA more children die, in the tub and toilet, than by guns every year.)
Silly? Maybe.
That's my 2 cents worth.
GLHR!
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Post by AmberC on Jan 31, 2005 13:00:52 GMT -5
I have a pair of the plastic pants somewhere, but they don't seem to work so well when there's a lot of pee! She had an accident wearing them, and there was no difference in how wet her pants were with them then without them. So I just don't bother with the plastic pants. I wipe her with a baby wipe before she gets her clean underwear/pants though, to make sure she doesn't end up with a rash. She's prone to them so I'm super careful.
And she's been watching me use the bathroom for about 2 1/2 years now! I hardly ever get away without her!
Amber
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Post by Littljoe on Jan 31, 2005 17:02:13 GMT -5
:)Quite frankly, "hit and miss" is quite acceptable for someone who's only 2-1/2. It takes time for them to recognize and learn the physical feelings that mean they have to go, and so for a while there will be false alarms and accidents. Often when they're first learning, they think that "wanting to go" is all that's required, so they'll go sit on the toilet and then be upset when they can't produce anything, as you've experienced. It also takes time to develop the muscle control to hold it (and to walk to the bathroom while holding it!), once they recognize they have to go.
Generally, this doesn't last very long. There's just a learning period, as with anything else, until she can accurately interpret her own body signals. Just reassure her that she'll learn it quickly, and continue to tell her how grown-up she is when she gets it right.
Plastic pants are nice for you, but most kids who are trying to train themselves are disgusted or embarrassed with plastic pants because "babies" wear them. You can just follow her lead on this, let her decide.
My own kids learned in a couple of days, but then they were content to wear diapers until they were almost 3. It sounds as if she's a little more ambitious, more power to her! It just means her learning period may be a little more prolonged. You're doing fine.
--LJ
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Post by Newfygirl on Jan 31, 2005 17:12:07 GMT -5
Don't feel bad! Our youngest was 3 in September. He's one of those who doesn't care if he's wet or not. UNLESS its bedtime! He'll also happily volunteer to go potty at a restaurant. Otherwise - nope - couldn't care less. He started pre-school last week, so we're hoping he starts getting a little more interested.
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Post by Frosty M on Jan 31, 2005 19:06:59 GMT -5
smart and trying to do the right thing, but they haven't been taught much, have they It's sad to see the turmoil drugs have brought into this family. Please don't blame your sister too much. It's true that a lot of it was her choice, but also the drug is very evil. Just evil.
(((HUGS))) I'm sure you're a miracle to these kids and many congrats on continuing to involve their grandparents. I'm sure they've been missing them. The more intact their good family can be kept, the better, I imagine. You and your DH are really soldiers of the Cross. Remember what Jesus said, (paraphrasing) "what you do for the littlest of these, you do for me."
(If you aren't Christian, please don't get offended).
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Post by ExLibris on Jan 31, 2005 22:00:52 GMT -5
Just a thought...have you asked your daughter if it's ouchie to go potty? I only wonder because when my three year old was just getting started potty training, he acted like he wanted to not have accidents, but he'd avoid going to the bathroom forEVER, and then wee in his pants, looking horrified all the while. Turns out, he had a HORRIBLE urinary tract infection, and it was excruciating to pee.  It was difficult getting him past the fear of the pain, once it was over, but once he got it that he was ok, he was fine. Just something to look into...you may need to have her checked out by a doc if you suspect a uti. Good luck!  |
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Post by Sheryl on Jan 31, 2005 23:13:57 GMT -5
I have two boys and they both potty trained easily at around age 3. My oldest wanted to do it younger as he was at a home daycare around older kids so he really wanted to start at about 2 1/2. It went okay about a day or two, then alot of accidents and anxiety on his part. We just went back to diapers and then he just reached the age where he was mentally and physically ready. Once they were really ready, we took them out of diapers and put them in regular cloth pullup undies. The pampers pullups absorb so much they are like diapers, the cloth undies was a really a big step and they knew it!
Really, they each had the same experience - very few accidents before "getting it". I honestly can't remember the nighttime part of it, but it seemed they had generally dry diapers overnight which was the sign they were physically ready to potty train.
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Post by AmberC on Feb 1, 2005 10:06:30 GMT -5
About a UTI, I'm not really inclined to think so, because when she finally does go, she doens't act like it hurts. She gets that big "I DID IT!" smile on her face and requests her M&Ms and sticker. And she askes to go fairly often, and as we're going upstairs she's very positive "I'm going to pee on the big potty!" and excited. I set her on the potty and she keeps telling me she's going to potty. Then she changes her mind. Yesterday she was still saying "I can't" but not in a scared voice like she did the day before. It was just a simple, matter-of-fact "I can't do it." I told her that if she wasn't going to pee in the potty we'd go back to diapers for a while. It's not good for her to hold it for so long, and if she keeps doing it, she WILL end up with a UTI or bladder infection. She didn't argue too much when I put the diaper on last night. So I'm not going to push the issue for a couple days and see what happens. I really don't know what else to do. I looked online for some ideas last night, and read one about having her play with warm water. I have a cup with frogs in the bottom of it, so I put warm water in it and told her to try to get the frogs. The tip said they will usually go IMMEDIATELY after putting thier hands in warm water. She played with it for a good 5 minutes with no results. Tried running the bathroom faucet while she was playing with the warm water and it didn't help, either! So we'll just back off and see what happens.
Amber
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It was difficult getting him past the fear of the pain, once it was over, but once he got it that he was ok, he was fine. Just something to look into...you may need to have her checked out by a doc if you suspect a uti. Good luck! 
